17 August 2023 – Sex – A Two-Faced Gift

– Sex – A Two-Faced Gift

BRD REFLECTIONS:

1 Corinthians 7:1-16  and  Psalm 133, 134 (NIV)

(Joni Ong, Core Team Leader, SGM)

READ:

His Word to me this season: 1 Corinthians 7:2-5, 10,11

² But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. ³ The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. ⁴ The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. ⁵ Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.  

¹⁰ To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. ¹¹ But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. 

OBSERVE:

In the light of recent events involving political leaders and their extra-marital affairs, these verses and the focus on the sanctity of marriage are timely reminders. Admittedly, the scandals when first exposed, caused many of us to stumble through gossip mongering, casting judgements (seriously, did not Jesus say that he who is sinless will cast that first stone?) – just being downright unkind and faithless in our discussions about the protagonists in this unfortunate SG drama. The true victims, namely the spouses and children, were largely forgotten in most conversations. I pray for God’s forgiveness for our thoughtlessness and unChristian responses. 

The harsh reality of life is this: Sex outside of marriage was and will always be a big challenge to humans, whether they be Christians or not.  Yet, sex is a gift from God that has a profound lifelong spiritual bonding that binds two individuals together when practised lovingly and respectfully.

APPLY:

How can we adultery-proof and divorce-proof our marriages? Paul’s responses to the Corinthians provide some insights and pointers for me.

1. Marriage is a sacred commitment: Paul emphasises the significance of the marriage covenant, urging believers to honour and respect it. Extra-marital affairs betray the trust and commitment that should characterise a marriage. 
2. Sexual intimacy within marriage: Paul acknowledges the importance of sexual relations within the context of marriage. He encourages spouses to mutually fulfill one another’s needs, promoting a healthy and loving marital bond.
3. Guarding against temptation: Paul highlights the dangers of temptation and the need for self-control. He exhorts believers to focus on their spouse and avoid situations that may lead to temptation or compromise.
4. Restoration and forgiveness: Paul recognises the complexity of relationships and the need for grace and forgiveness within marriage. He encourages believers to strive for reconciliation and restoration when faced with difficulties.

DO:

1. 1. In recognising the sacredness of marriage, I prioritise faithfulness, loyalty, and open communication within my relationship with my husband.
2. 2. I shall communicate openly and cultivate a deep connection with my husband, focusing on his emotional and physical needs.
3. 3. I will stay vigilant in guarding my heart and mind against temptation, recognising that external factors can influence my choices. I need to set boundaries, avoid compromising situations, and seek support from trusted individuals (eg my small group) who can provide guidance and accountability.
4. 4. When faced with challenges within my relationship, I shall approach them with grace and a commitment to work towards healing and restoration. If needed. I shall seek counselling support and be open to extending forgiveness and receiving it in return.

PRAY:

Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for the wisdom and guidance found in your Word regarding the sacredness and importance of marriage. I lift up to you those who have been affected by the recent exposure of leaders involved in extra-marital affairs. Lord, I pray for healing and restoration in these broken relationships. May your divine intervention bring understanding, forgiveness, and reconciliation. 

You are a merciful and compassionate God, and I am privileged to be your child. Show me how to be the wife you intend me to be. Help me to live out faithfulness, commitment and open communication within my marriage. Every day and in every way, we want to grow closer to You and to each other. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.